An Energy Body/Chakra Balancing Session takes from 2 to 4 hours. This session begins with a discussion about the story what you need to forgive. I use the same tools as mentioned in the Energy Body/Chakra Balancing session. The difference is that I will be asking you a number of questions as we work on balancing each of your chakras. These questions need to be answered with a YES. This is your “agreement” that you will be actively releasing your anger, resentment, misunderstanding, and frustration involved with the situation and person(s). It is vital to understand that this session requires you to have arrived at a place that you are ready to completely forgive.
Forgiveness is KEY to beginning many healing journeys.
Without forgiveness, it is like taking poison and expecting the other person(s) to die from it.
When people think of Forgiveness or the act of forgiving, they often think that forgiving someone, a group of people, or some incident, means condoning the act, accepting the behavior, or basically sweeping it all under the carpet. “Forgive and Forget”. There is no such thing as forgiving and forgetting. This is why it doesn’t work. Eventually some other seemingly non-related incident will happen and BANG! We are right back where we started, at the original hurt as if it happened minutes before. Ever wonder why?
True Forgiveness isn’t Condoning or Accepting… it is Re-Framing… (or looking at the situation from a different perspective.
Unless the person(s) or situation is truly transformed into the learning experience it is meant to be, eventually another similar person, event or situation will come along that will “trip our trigger”, and the pain begins again—only worse. Until this kind of remembering is transformed and released for our highest good, the old hurt, the old experience will continue to recur.
Our bodies hold the energy of this pain—be it physical, mental or emotional in its tissues. Our bodies do not forget.
“Turning a blind eye” to the situation, and postponing the inevitable will have it come up for replay, insuring your continued struggle with it.
Radical Forgiveness means looking at the situation that occurred from a totally different vantage point, in that:
Things do not happen “to us”, they happen “for us”.
This idea goes against everything most of us have been taught! Nonetheless, it is true. But “IT” does not have to stay this way!
If we find that we have even the smallest willingness to remove ourselves from the situation, (even for a few moments), and walk above it and look at it from a whole different perspective, this opens a miraculous pathway for our learning, and for our ultimate benefit, despite the often terrible circumstances that occurred. Looking through our “heart’s eyes” with the Grace of True Forgiveness releases us from the chains that keep us locked in conflict with the person(s) or the events.
The 5 Steps to Radical Forgiveness:
- 1. Telling the Story This is where we sit and you tell me the story of what happened, why you feel the way you do, who is to blame, etc. The goal is to have your story witnessed and validated with no judgment. It is what it is.
- 2. Feeling the Feelings This is where you give yourself permission to get into the full range of feelings associated with the story, no matter what. We put our focus on where in our bodies we actually “feel” these feelings. We track where this story is stuck in your energy field …
- 3. Collapsing the Story In this process, you step backwards and try to understand the motives of the person(s) or situation that occurred—as if you are observing the event from another perspective… viewing instead with mercy and compassion. But this is where conventional forgiveness stops. It still identifies you as a victim, despite your effort to forgive that person(s). He/She/They are not off the hook. They are still seen as the perpetrator and responsible for your unhappiness.
- 4. Reframing the Story This is the point where Radical Forgiveness takes us where “conventional forgiveness” does not, and where few of us have ever been before. It is The Key to an entire new way of thinking of how matters and situations are accepted as gifts to our learning and growth. In this dramatic shift in our perception, we are able to see that
… things do not happen TO US, they happen FOR US!
The idea that there is a Divine Purpose in everything that we encounter and that nothing happens without a message for us to learn from, brings us to the old adage that “everything happens for a reason”! Even if we are not sure what these spiritual messages or lessons are, there are reasons we choose the experiences we create and this applies to everything that happens. It is all part of the Divine Plan for our lives, that must play out in order to raise our vibration…our spirits to a higher level.Your logical mind finds this whole concept very easy to reject! How on earth can we think there is a Divine Plan in extreme experiences such as abuse, neglect, murder, rape, incest, incomprehensible violence, sudden or unexpected death of a loved one, and the like? But, our Higher Self, or Spiritual Intelligence knows the truth—or bigger picture, even if we cannot fathom it. We must let go, and trust that everything is indeed in order.The story is told, totally un-done, or released even if the people involved are no longer with us!
- 5. Integrating the Story The old victim story lived in every cell in our body; in every Chakra. But, having dissolved the old story the new (or reframed story) must be put in place to “over-write” the old beliefs we had. For this to be achieved, we must take action! We must realize that we are totally responsible for our own healing, and get physical about it! Through mediation, dancing, drumming, chanting, journal-writing, talking it out, and best of all—Breathwork…we can truly wake up to a new person in ourselves! After all the old hurts are filled with the waters of contemplation and grace, long held resentments, anger, fear, and guilt melt away. We heal our relationships, and synchronicities begin to occur that show us that there is a different set of laws operating that we now have the inner vision to see.Life becomes instantly better, when we are able to see with our new eyes. Begin your journey to Radical Forgiveness – I cannot more highly recommend that you read the book, “Radical Forgiveness”, by Colin Tipping. Please do not hesitate to go to the website for information on this highly effective wonderful healing method. http://www.radicalforgiveness.com/